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Handling Conflict in Your Congregation
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Curator Doug Hanner
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Congregational Leadership Development
Curator Kate White
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What To Do When… A Fight Breaks Out
These two video discussions suggest how to avoid congregational conflict and what to do when conflict arises.
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Discover Your Conflict Management Style
This resource will help the reader identify their conflict management tendencies before zooming out and revealing how those tendencies play out in larger congregational conflict, offering options for responding to conflict and how to resolve problems.
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Conflict

The pastor could not sleep after the team meeting. It didn’t help that the meeting wasn’t over until 10:30 p.m. It also didn’t help that he kept replaying the moment when he lost his temper.

“As long as I am in this congregation, we will never hire a full-time musician.” That’s what a long-time member said during the meeting. For my pastor friend, it was the word “never” that made him react.

“As long as you are in this congregation, nothing new or good is ever going to happen.”

Moments of regret

We’ve all had moments we’d rather forget as part of a congregation. I imagine that many of us have experienced sleepless nights because we were upset about some comment, argument or disagreement that occurred.

Congregational conflict is as frequent as conflict in almost any other setting. Just because congregations hold high spiritual values doesn’t free congregations from dissension.

Allowing behaviors

In many of our congregations, this paradox is true: We allow behavior we would never permit in our families, or – and this is the paradox – we allow behaviors we would only permit in our families.

Resources

Years ago, consultant Speed Leas showed us that there were different levels to conflict. If conflict gets too intense reconciliation is going to be difficult if not impossible. Check out this online article about Speed Leas’ levels of conflict.  Thankfully, we can learn all kinds of healthy ways to address conflict before it reaches the point of no return. Just as individuals learn emotional self-regulation, so can communities including your local congregation.

If you are interested in an approach that places a strong emphasis on Biblical authority, you should take a look at the Peacemaker resources.

Maybe you’d like to learn more about handling difficult conversations. Here is a helpful resource.

Many congregational leaders have benefited from George Bullard’s wisdom about conflict. This book is comprehensive and practical.

I hope you can be spared sleepless nights. And if you find yourself worrying about conflict, know that you’re not alone and there is help available.

To learn more, search conflict on the CRG.

 

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The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)
This book analyzes four personality types as they relate to why individuals act and why they don't.
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Antagonists in the Church: How to Identify and Deal with Destructive Conflict
This resource offers insight on how to identify a bully or antagonist and guidance to address that individual's behavior.
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Faith Trust Institute
This organization offers online trainings, resources, and consulting addressing sexual and domestic violence in faith communities.
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The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery
This resource uses the Enneagram personality assessment to help individuals discover and develop their God-given selves, focusing on each of the personality types in addition to their worldviews and spiritual gifts.
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How to Prevent and Resolve Congregational Conflict
This study-discussion guide provided by The Parish Paper offers solutions to internal conflicts and includes examples of how individuals can limit divisions.
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The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict
This book is based off a four-part biblical peacemaking method centered around the New Testament, giving congregations tools to take the first step towards reconciliation.
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Engage Conflict Well: A Guide to Prepare Yourself and Others to Engage in Conflict Transformation
This 12-page booklet is divided into two sections --- first addressing the individual's internal process to address conflict, then applying those principles to the work of engaging others in conflict transformation.
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